Over the years, I have met with a lot of lady-friends who would no longer hold any respect (no matter how little) for an older guy or man who asked them out. I have always pondered on this issue and viewed the reaction of these friends of mine as very hostile; but soon, I was able to think it through and come to the conclusion that some guys or men do not deserve this respect afterall.
For instance, in a situation whereby somebody old enough to be your father or probably your father's friend is disturbing you for a relationship, there is every reason for you to dislike this person enough not to award him any respect whatsoever.
Another example is your best friend's boyfriend or just the boyfriend of one of your random friends who is constantly asking you out in the absence of your friend. What kind of respect would anyone want to award such a person? Some bosses/employers would even threaten their female employee to either accept their "shameful" proposal or quit the job.
All in all, all these are totally unacceptable and unfair but any lady should still know the difference between an innocent guy that has good intention and an old hag that just wants to take advantage.
My opinion is that ladies (if not interested) should still try to respect but create a distance between themselves and such people; because most ladies could go as far as disrespecting/embarrassing guys who are a little older than them or of the same age in public even when they know such guys have good intentions. Most ladies usually do this in the presence of their friends either to impress them or just to show their level of decency. Now the question remains, "what happened to just saying NO? ".
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