This topic has been buzzling in my head for days. I wanted to just blog my opinion about it straight-away but I later decided to listen to what others have to say about it before blogging.
As a form of research, I posted the topic as my Whatsapp Status...I got a lot of responses from the people who viewed my status but because it would be quiet uneasy to review everyone's responses, I would post just four of these responses so you can read my conversation with these recipients and decide whose side you are on.
FIRST RESPONSE:
R1: Infact I can give you my thought based on my experience...I am currently in that position...one younger guy is seriously crushing on me...he even said he wants to marry me😀.
Olagbende Rebecca's Blog: So, how do you intend to handle it😁 or how would you handle it rather?
R1: I cannot start what I cannot finish...I rebuked his advances strongly and intermittently any time he brings the matter up...I told him it cannot work that my family will not accept. You know, I was trying to be a "good girl"😀.
Olagbende Rebecca's Blog: So he kept on disturbing you?
R1: Yes oh...but his disturbance has reduced because I didn't give him any face.
Olagbende Rebecca's Blog: Hmmmn, is it that he wasn't cute 😁 or just about what people will say that is why you didn't give it a try? Or simply because you don't have feelings for him?
R1: Whoops! The guy is very very cute...with well formed muscles and he is very tall...It is very easy to get attracted to someone like that 😁. But I know it can't work...I have already set the agenda of my life and he doesn't fit into it.
Olagbende Rebecca's Blog: Hmmn🤔, so it is not about your people complaining about him being younger, that is not a problem right? It is just about him not fitting in into your plans or is it otherwise?
R1: Exactly my point...All his plans and ambitions were not synchronizing with mine...For instance, he said he will be ready to marry me when he clocks 30 years and by that time I would be 32 years...Please, who does that?
Olagbende Rebecca: I get your point 😁. Thank you so much for the contribution. I appreciate🙏
R1: U are welcome.
SECOND RESPONSE:
R2: Age is nothing but a number.
Olagbende Rebecca Blog's: Hmmm🤔, you know the kind of society we live in, what if your parents don't agree?
R2: Is it there relationship? Or mine?
Olagbende Rebecca's Blog: Lol, so there is surely going to be a fight😁?
R2: Lol
Olagbende Rebecca's Blog: Hmmn, thank you so much for your contribution🙏
THIRD RESPONSE:
R3: Younger or older...As long as you have sense, I don't mind...Except if u are not of the age to make decisions on your own; then, I am going to have to make the person know that it can not work. With time, she will get over it...
Olagbende Rebecca's Blog: "As long as you have sense"...Hmmmn🤔, most parents won't agree but youths of nowadays have been able to handle that without causing too much trouble and it now depends on if the person you are willing to cross all boundaries for have sense...Nice one, thanks a lot🙏
R3: Glad I could help...
FOURTH RESPONSE:
R4: Tactical question
Olagbende Rebecca's Blog: What do you think😁?
R4: Hmm, I have once dated someone that is older than me.
Olagbende Rebecca's Blog: Cool, meaning that the age is not a big deal for you but most ladies see it as a big deal, I don't really know why though.
R4: Do not let me deceive you, the age difference must be more than two years.
Olagbende Rebecca's Blog: Hmmmn,, so anything more than two years is not very good🤔? I get your point but why do you think it should not be more than two years?
R4: I just can not deal with an age difference that is beyond two years because of "ego". Most ladies have ego.
Olagbende Rebecca's Blog: But on a serious note, why on earth would a girl want to show ego if she claims to love the man no matter the age difference?
R4: Love...does it exist?
Olagbende Rebecca's Blog: Although, some people usually say only ladies who do not see perfect suitors to marry them on time marry younger guys.
R4: That is a lie although most women have pride.
Olagbende Rebecca's Blog: What makes u think so
R4: Their attitude, character, just a little negative change in their man's current situation probably financially will turn them to something else. Though not all of them.
Olagbende Rebecca's Blog: Though some ladies can be troublesome but certainly not all of them.
R4: That is true, besides, age is just number but too much of age difference can have negative effect on a relationship especially on lady's side.
Olagbende Rebecca's Blog: Hmmn I understand besides, most parents won't even agree.
R4: That is correct.
In the course of my conversation with recipients. People asked me to share my own view about the topics. So I shared a story that goes thus;
There was this junior I had in school then, after I graduated from secondary school and was seeking admission into the University. The guy would always come to greet me at home after school so much that it began to irritate me and I began to dodge ooo😁...He would talk with so much emotions and care that I would begin to wonder if it would ever be possible for me to date him. He would call and text me everytime. I was really feeling choked but I couldn't fight with him, I was playing nice you know 😁 but deep down I knew "It would never work" and I just wanted him to go...Why I instantly rebuked is what I still don't know🤔
Now that am older, I usually think I must have ruined the younger guy's "probably" first attempt at crushing😁 and I sometimes feel guilty for shying away and not explaining reasons why it wouldn't work to him (definitely not the age thing but we both still had a long long way to go. Besides, it was obvious that we had no feelings for eachother. The young guy certainly did not know what it means to love he probably just wanted to do what his friends are doing by having a girlfriend. Also, I was only older, I really never knew what love meant myself).
That was how I concluded my research on this topic. What would you rather do in a situation like this, or better still which of the recipient's side are you on? You can comment your response here on the blog or on the Instagram post for this topic @olagbenderebeccasblog ...Thank you so much for your attention always🙏🙏🙏.
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