A Strong Person💪💪💪 (A hope for somebody out there!!!)

I have seen people define who a strong person is times without number and I don't think I quiet agree totally with any of these definitions. One of these definitions is, "people who are strong go through a lot of things and don't ever say a word about them". Well, I have my own sentiment about this particular definition. Not like it is not correct but I think it is not complete.

If you tell me a strong person can be determined by how well that person keeps and privatize all the messy things around him or her. You sure haven't told me the public perception of that person. I would like to know if this person is always feeling all beat up and like though he or she is carrying the whole problem of this world but still manages to maintain a smile or the person is all bitter and quiet because he or she is trying to be strong.

If you would ask me, I would like to modify everybody's perception about a strong person. You don't have to be a bitter person because you are being strong. You don't have to be a super "withdrawn from the world" kind of person because you are being strong. You don't have to be a sadist because you are being strong.

And somebody in one corner is about to ask me how the heck do I expect someone who is going through a lot to be an all smile and lively person. Well, I don't know how exactly but I think the best way is to see every problem as a temporary thing and a challenge you have to face for you to get on the brighter side of life. Although, everyone these days tend to be faking happiness until you hear that someone somewhere killed his or herself due to a long time suffering from depression. All I can say is, it is very OK to cry, it is very OK to long for another person who would tell you not to worry that everything would be fine also seek genuine happiness in the best way you can and you would find it.

So I am going to wrap up with this, "A strong person goes through a lot, either keeps quiet about everything or seek advice from somebody worthy, cry in his or her closet (not compulsory though), gets up to fight back, gets up to try again and still manages to live a happy life not to please the world but to satisfy his or herself".

Burnt Plaintain

"This browsing of a thing will not kuku finish me😂..."

Ok, this is practically something I want to gist you about. This faithful day, I was so engrossed and carried away with what I was doing online (what was I even doing🤔? It would be something meaningful though) that I had to excuse myself from the kitchen where my mum was preparing lunch for us. Wait, let me tell you very little about my mum, my mum is a very caring and kind person that can give anybody anything in her possession plus she even goes out of her way to satisfy others.

So this very day, my mum was frying plaintain, after packing the first bowl, she realized she needed to buy something at the grocery store close to our house. She poured the second bowl of plaintain which is the last batch on fire, she then told me to keep watch that she would be right back. Immediately she left, I went to check the frying plaintain and it was not ready yet but almost so I left it to return back to what I was doing on my phone.

After about fifteen minutes, I suddenly remembered I was asked to watch plaintain, I jumped up and ran to the kitchen but on getting there, smoke was everywhere and the whole plaintain was burnt. I immediately did not know what to do because I knew my mum would soon get back.

I checked round the kitchen and saw that there was just one raw plaintain remaining from the whole bunch and it was not as ripe as the rest. I however peeled off the back, sliced it as fast as possible, mixed it with a little bit of sugar and salt then fried it very fast. I cleaned everywhere as quickly as I could and added the new batch of plaintain to the one my mum had fried. I then poured the burnt one in a nylon and hid it in my room😄 (dumb or smart?😀).

My mum came back, thanked me for watching over the plaintain and frying it successfully😂 and I was there saying "thank you ma" with a divided mind. Although, I continued with the remaining activities of the day normally as I should but my conscience just didn't stop pricking me.

Few hours after lunch, I made up my mind to say the truth because it was as though I was during in silence all through so I was lucky my mum came over to my room to give me a message. I then said;

"mummy, I have something to tell you hope you won't get angry? "

She then said with a smile, " Ok, I promise I won't get angry"

I sighed and started telling her how the story of the plantain went. Although she corrected me to always pay attention whenever I am cooking but she never got angry. As a result, I was able to say the truth and free my mind/conscience at the same time😀. I hope you were able to learn one or two things from this. You can as well let me/others know what you learnt by commenting below in the comment section. Thank you for your time, I love you😘

"My Mum and Siblings have already accepted me for who I am" _ Fashion Fanatic/Philantropist, Raymond

*     My name is Olagbende Rebecca also known as RBK, can I meet you?

My name is Olawole Falope aka Raymond.

*     So, the name @therealbabyboyforlife you bear on instagram, was it coined from Raymond or just a name for the gram?

It was coined as a result of my lifestyle.

*     What is this lifestyle if I may ask?

My traveling, Shopping and Philanthropist lifestyle.

*     I want to ask, do you mind sharing your educational/family background?

Yeah sure, I went to Straitgate Nursery and Primary School in Magodo, also went to Lindsey Primary School at Igbon Efon then at primary 5, I switched to Ebenezery Height. I did my secondary school at Distinct Medal College, Magodo afterwards, I wrote jamb and enrolled at the Nigerian Institute of Journalism then I did dLI at Unilag before finally enrolling at Ohio State University.

*     Wow, That's a lot, u are a really educated somebody😁

Lol, thanks hun.

*     You are so welcome 😊, so how about your family/background?

I'm the first of 4kids.

*     Okay...

My dad is late so all I have is just my mum, siblings and God.

*     Awwww, so sorry about that🙏 . Following the family/background question, your looks😁 (Chaii) attracts/draw almighty attention, you know, anyone that sees you would be like, "maybe he is an hairstylist", "maybe he is a MakeUp artist" and what have you😃, so I want to ask if you are into the fashion business, music business, modelling business or better still, what is the inspiration behind your looks?

I'm a Model, Actor and a fashion designer.

*     Very cool...So how does mum and siblings react to the whole swag thing?

They don't have a problem with it as they've all accepted me for who I am.

*     That is applaudable, Ok let us come to strangers now, how do people react when they see you, do they ask questions like, are gay or something? Then how do you often react?

Some people are receptive while some say are you a guy or a girl. Some say "are you gay?" 😂. I give them instant replies because my mouth gat no chill.

*     😆😆😆

I clear them straight away and let them know I'm not gay that it's just my style. My hair and looks are my signature. Same way some Footballers, Artistes and Models have certain looks.

*     Therefore, we can say, you are straight, you do girls and not guys🤣 and the looks and all is just for the signature and lifestyle? So on behalf of the All Girls Association AGA😁, I would like to ask if you are still single?

Yessssssss and Yes I'm still Single.

*     Am sure girls would start applying once they read this interview😁

Lol 😂 😂 😂 😂

*     Ok back to serious matters, got to know you have a Charity Foundation, can you shed more light on it please?

I started it last year after my 24th birthday. It is to cater for the less privileged in rural areas who have no access to the good life.

*     Hmmmn, a nice scheme, may God continue to enrich your pocket🙏

Amen🙏

*     I also got to know you auditioned for the 2019 Big Brother Nigeria Reality TV show, how was the audition first of all?

It was stressful.

*     Eyaah, but you auditioned at last?

No, I did not, I left angrily. The stress was too much.

*     Ouuuuch!!! People were already hoping to see you in the house including me.

Yeah, I know right but I had to save my life and brand. The environment was not conducive for me. They started spraying tear gas on people and some started choking and vomiting. Some people even fainted in the process. I could not endure such treatment so I had to leave.

*     What was your motivate behind wanting to be part of the reality show?

I believe it is a great platform to showcase my brand which is also an added advantage for them as I'd be giving them more ratings and views.

*     So what words do you have for anyone out there silently or openly looking up to you?

Be yourself and don't care what people say about you. Grow a tough skin. Else if you keep throwing stones at every dog that barks you'd never get to your destination and you'd be depressed.

*     Hmmmn that is one good advice no one should forget 🤔 but one question pls, do you still plan to venture into this cross-dressing thing like Bobrisky, Denrele Edun, and the likes?

Looooool No way! Though I don't have anything against them as it's their life and people should be allowed to do whatever pleases them or rock their boat.

*     Yea just like a friend of mine would say "Every Mallam with him own Kettle" 😁

Yes ooo

*     And also where do you see yourself, your foundation and your career in the next five to ten years?

I see myself on Forbes list rubbing shoulders with the likes of Mark Zuckerberg and Bill Gate.

*     Very nice💯✅ Okay we have come to the end of this interview, I want to say a very big thank you for granting this interview, may God continue to bless you🙏 Then your Instagram and Twitter Handles so anyone with a personal question can contact you.

You're welcome...Amen and you too dear. Instagram: @therealbabyboyforlife Twitter: @Raymondsplash