Wednesday, 23 January 2019

Suicide!!!

I have always wondered why a very lively and happy person would suddenly become very quiet and withdrawn. You know I used to feel no problem of this world is worth the use of one's happiness as an atonement for peace until I met this friend of mine (at the studio where I usually rehearse). Oh!  This girl was so full of joy, fun to be with so much that you can never be sad or bored whenever you are around her. She would even often make advances to me on behalf of her elder brother (all jokes though). All am trying to say is that she was a very nice person in everyway and we became friends in no time. Until when the story changed about two years after I got to know this lady.

It all started out as she missing rehearsals, switching off her phone every now and then and making excuses from time to time about how she could not/would not be able to meet up with our various time to meet for rehearsals. I did not even notice anything owing to the fact that she was always full of smiles and warmth each time I had the opportunity to come across her. I decided to visit her often to know if anything was actually wrong and she was not telling me (probably I could see for myself) but everything seemed as it should be so I reduced the visit so she does not feel choked and continued with my normal life.

Just three months later, I was called and informed that she gave up the ghost (committed suicide properly put). I was told that she drank a chemical solution meant for killing dangerous reptiles and she died on the way as she was being rushed to the hospital. After so much tears and weeping, I began to ponder on why she never told anyone what she was going through. At a point, I even started feeling guilty that I did not pressure her enough to talk but I mean, I tried😑.

People started saying all manner of things like; maybe she was depressed, maybe she was pregnant and did not know who to tell or better still committed an abortion and lost her womb. Well, nobody knows for sure what happened but my point here is directed to the fact that there are some components that needs to be showered vast attention before it heightens to depression. We can say, "depression" is an umbrella word for these components but believe me, these components are umbrella words themselves (they can individually and single-handedly kill a person/make a person commit suicide).

You would ask me what these components are right? Well, those things we treat on the surface level and with very much insignificance like spreading bad words about a person's moral, that is, demoralizing a human being like you with the words of your mouth, another one is, breaking the heart/trust of someone whose life depends on you whether in a relationship or in a friendship (and some people think all this is a joke...). However, some people will say, "why would your life be depended on the trust you have for someone in the first place?" , well as true as this statement may be, the fact remains that there are still people out there who trust you to the bone whether they tell you or not...

No one knows why this young promising female committed suicide in the above write-up but all the same, let us adjust our crooked ways. Let us love again, let us trust again, let us hold back hurt/revenge and lend our helping hands to others, let us breath forgive...We never can tell, we might be saving someone's life...Shalom!!!